~ 88 weeks to my 'Tees' (30th) ~
Prantik and I celebrated 50 months since our wedding on Feb 3rd, 2019.
The Friday leading up to the weekend, I surprised him post work in my scrub-pants and met him after his gym session, at a resto-bar in the city. We enjoyed good conversation, over some salads and delicious refreshing cocktails!
Saturday evening was spent with our usual gang of friends along with another couple from the US, who stopped over at Singapore, on their way to India - we enjoyed Asian dinner, followed by drinks at the rooftop, laughing over stories from the past and mysteries of the future.
On Sunday i.e the 3rd of Feb - we stole some time, while the toddler indulged in his afternoon siesta, to catch a late matinee show of a Bollywood movie at the theatre; followed by coffee, chilling on the lawn.
Just looking back at how far we've come since our wedding ceremonies, left us feeling giddy!
We've had a fair share of ups and downs, like any other couple out there- but we've stuck together despite all the differences... and just as we've gotten older, we've also grown wiser (hopefully) and here's hoping that we continue on this roller-coaster journey together, learning to let go (of things that don't matter on the long run) and holding on, when required (to faith in ourselves and the higher Force, if one's a believer)
Ups/Downs
S = Surprises/Sarcasm
O = Optimism/Overcommitted
C = Companionship/Critical
I = Intimacy/Insecurities
A = Adventures/Assumptions
L = Love/Lack of empathy
S = Security/Scarcity of time
H = Home/Home alone
A = Affection/Anger
A = Ambition/Abrasiveness
D = Dancing together/Defensiveness
I = Infinite growth/Imperfections
These are personality as well as couple traits that do not get completely reflected on Social media posts - because by default, we are all narcissistic characters - and we'd only project the good side, editted pictures in good light, sans red eyes, with filters etc - but the truth is, we're all normal people, with our own idiosyncrasies and flaws.
Marriage continues to teach us to focus inwards on personal growth continually, while also being considerate and giving towards the other half's (I do not say 'better half' because everyone is a different individual, and one mustn't compare apples to oranges!) journey of discovery and growth.
It is learning to enjoy the roller coaster ride, while maintaining our poise and striking the right balance.
It is learning to adapt to the changes that we undergo as time passes by, and finding our footing while the waves go by.
It is learning to take over new roles, doning invisible superhero/heroine capes even, and giving it our best; and at times, when we can't for whatever reason, falling back on our partner, and being able to rely on them ... and at the end of the day, looking back and being able to smile together, at a job well done - be it setting our house up, cooking a meal, raising our toddler and such.
It's been a fantastic 50 months with you, Prantik; we've seen each other through some tough and rough times; we've danced through the good times and well, we've had some jolly good - great times too - may we continue to be grateful for the blessings that continue to be showered upon us; may we never take each other for granted; and may we continue on this beautiful journey, hand in hand, until they get crooked from senile arthritis, until you lose all your hair, mine grey beyond repair, and we fall asleep cuddling one night, reminiscing about the days, months and decades we've spent together, and pass onto the next world, in peace...
You should write a blog on surviving long distance relationship. Everyone talk about the happy part and no one talks about the difficulties that come with it :)
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